Match.com: Wink and Email - What Went Wrong? Part 2

It's the moment we've all been waiting for. In the post "Match.com: Wink and Email - What Went Wrong? Part 1", I told you how my sister was emailing with a dude who appeared to have some potential. He winked at her. She winked at him. He emailed her. She emailed back. All good, right?

Seemed to be.

But then he blew it.

How?

If you haven't figured out how, well, then you're gonna have to wait just a couple more minutes. Because FIRST, I wanna show you a funny picture my sister sent me on Thursday.

And I'm sure this poor guy has no idea he's even being laughed at. And that's the shame of it all. Why? Because if he took a little more effort and asked someone else their opinion of the picture, then he would never have posted it to begin with.

Go on and look at the picture again.

Ok. I don't care that the bike outfit is too tight. I don't care that you can see the outline of his junk ... what little that appears to be there. I don't care that his head looks like a penis with a helmet on it.

I'm talking about the fact that it looks like he's picking his ass.

Yeah, I know his hand is probably just holding the seat behind him, but come on, he looks like he's picking his ass. And that's exactly what my sister thought also. She messaged the picture to me and said, "Look, this guy's picking his ass! Why would he post that?!?"

Guys, come on. Stop posting pictures like this! Seriously!! Ok, I get it - you probably think it's a great picture because it shows you're athletic and like biking because it's a great hobby of yours and you do biking competitions and have biked all over the Alps and the Rockies and blah blah blah. But you know what? That also means you can't look at the picture objectively. But a friend, a bro, a sister, a co-worker CAN and WILL look at it objectively. And a friend, a bro, a sister, a co-worker WILL tell you that your bike suit is too tight, that they can see your little tiny junk, that your head looks like a penis with a helmet on it, and that it looks like you're picking your freaking ass!!

Come on!!

Show your pictures to someone else so they can give you honest feedback! You don't need to do a scientific study with a full panel of unbiased peers. Just ask someone who cares about you, who you care about, and who you know will give you honest feedback. Trust me, it'll be the difference between being laughed at behind the scenes and actually making a match!

Ok, back to "Match.com: Wink and Email - What Went Wrong? Part 1." So, what DID the dude do wrong? And the answer is ...

He never asked her a single question about herself!

Two days of emailing, 12 emails sent. He asked her two things: how are you (as the opening email) and how's the weather. That's it. And that's pretty messed up. Nothing else. Nothing about her at all. Did she go wrong in there somewhere? I don't think so. Her responses were all measured, friendly, appropriate. I don't think she did anything wrong. If you disagree, then lemme know. Because I'm still shocked that the guy never really asked her a thing. He was pretty happy talking about himself. So, does this mean he's an all around jerk? No. But it leaves a really bad impression ... especially considering he's the one who initiated the entire contact and conversation to begin with.

So here's the lesson: you're trying to make a connection with another person, so don't make it all about yourself. If you were at a bar and went up to a woman, would you just sit there looking at her and not ask her a single question? No, of course you wouldn't. And Match.com is no different.

Ask HER about HER. It may be emailing, but it's STILL a conversation!

And that's how you start thinking like a woman!